DEEP-HEART HEALING:
A Holistic Approach to Healing

Deep-Heart Healing is a way of wisdom that can facilitate inner healing and transformation. I developed this way by applying the wisdom I learned from being a Trappist (Christian) monk for 33 years to a quest for my own inner healing that began shortly before I left monastic life in 2001.

 

The basic insight of Deep-Heart Healing is that we can all awaken to our deepest center of consciousness wherein we intuit our oneness with all in the inner ground of Spirit or Love that is the very foundation by which we, anyone, anything exist at all. This is the Ground Truth which our universal humanity has given voice in the enlightened ones of every time and place. From this awakened consciousness comes the great life directives such as:

 

“Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

 

"Love the Lord God with all your heart and your neighbor as yourself.”

 

“Love those who hate you, pray for those who persecute you.”

 

It is from this awakened consciousness that we can heal inner conflict that manifests as any form of ill will, malice, etc. – anything that is not in harmony with the call to love from the inner Divine Unity we intuit in our depths. Outer events that trigger negative emotions are very often not about present time but echo back

to an early period of life (usually the first 5 years) when we experienced overwhelming emotions we had no way to resolve.
It is these unresolved emotional issues begun early in life that continue to influence us until we become aware of them and
heal them.

 

It is very important to understand root causes of inner division and conflict in ourselves so that we can heal them. To truly understand these causes we need to understand the earliest development

of a vulnerable child who only yearns to be loved and to love. We need to understand what happens when the genuine needs for such a child are not met.

 

Every child, as a spiritual being, is born into this world to experience the highest blessing of love. We are not defined by

our human nature, but by our spiritual nature. Human nature is the vehicle through which we express our deepest essence as Spirit.
It is in this sense that we are Spirit. And as such we have an inner drive to experience communion with all in the All. Love generally does have its beginnings in a particular relationship, especially the parent/child relationship, but it is meant to become all-inclusive. As we become aware of our inner essence as Spirit we realize that we are all called to the fullness of love, that excludes no one, no thing. It is this inner drive towards the fullness of love, to be one with all in the All, that is infinite, without division or conflict. What is most important is our becoming aware of it.

 

What we need to see is that a developing child is totally dependent upon those who can express to it the qualities of love it so yearns for – kindness, protection, goodness, affection – every sort of care. This is how a child begins to sense its own inner essence as Love or Spirit. But when such qualities are not so extended to a child, the child has no way to comprehend why its yearning should be

so thwarted. There can be many interactions that take place in

our lives as we develop from our earliest years wherein we are traumatized in some way. They can range from being very subtle

to very intense. In such traumatic experiences a child has to recoil from overwhelming pain that it has no way to understand, no way to consciously resolve and has to contract inside itself and find some way to cope, to survive. A child feels in some measure from such experiences that it cannot trust life.

 

And so a division is created in the child – a division between the conscious mind that attempts to cope and find someway to go

on and the unconscious pain it has had to repress. And in a traumatized child there can also be and often is intense rage

and hatred of having its yearning betrayed. If a child could speak he/she might speak thus, “I so hate the way you treated me, because I so needed your love.” Hatred at its deepest root is an insistence on love. If this root is not understood and healing not found, it can be the source of dysfunction in later life. Many of us have to bury experiences of neglect and abuse that happened to us, or that we witnessed happening to other members in our

family of origin. Buried pain, grief, fear experienced in our quest for acceptance and love at this early period stay with us and surface

in our later quest for the same and often influence us much, much more than we are aware of.

 

What we need to understand is that from the experience of overwhelming emotions that we have had to bury we are wounded. From these we develop negative beliefs about our self and life that become largely unconscious and influence us as we grow and mature. Often this inner emotional pain from this early time affects our body. Unresolved emotions manifest as physical symptoms. What we cannot express freely in mind and speech,

our body does for us. The body is a mirror of the unconscious mind. Unresolved inner pain is also the springboard of every form of addiction. In any addiction the same dynamic is always involved — a person is driven to try to find a resolution to inner pain from something outside. What we really need to see is this source of pain in people and how they can be healed at the root level.

 

In the way of Deep-Heart Healing the first step towards healing is always to awaken to our deepest center of consciousness in which there is no division. As we become aware of the Loving Ground of our life and know that we can trust It’s power to bring to light and heal inner buried pain along with negative beliefs, we experience release of the grip of these unconscious forces upon our life.

Deep-Heart Healing develops intuitive knowing at the service of realizing the call to love for the good of all (see Accessing Inner Guidance). This enables us to discern where buried emotions and negative beliefs are held in our life. We all have the capacity to do this, but what we often need is each other’s help. Buried emotions

from early life are often so much a part of us that it is difficult by ourself to bring them to light. Another person committed to inner realization can use their intuitive knowing to assist us. This enables our healing process to move forward (see Healing of Memories and Healing Inner Child).

 

As a model of healing, Deep-Heart Healing says that we can meet as spiritual sisters and brothers trusting our deepest essence. We can ask together, “What needs to be brought forth in our life that we may realize the call to love given us for the good of all?” It is the call to love from Love Itself that is the highest truth to which

all else is subordinate. It is this Truth that undoes any untruth

we have believed about our self from early conditioning. Our precious life force is then freed from being trapped in this earlier programming and returns to its Original Life Source, The Greater Life that connects us with all beings. In this we are free to follow the ever-expansive path of love and service uniquely given us.