Healing the Inner Child

We are all born into this world to experience the highest blessing of love. Each of us only yearns to be recognized for the wondrous mystery that we are and to experience being loved as such and to love in returned. When a child’s yearning for love is thwarted by experiences of neglect, abandonment or abuse of any kind it has no way to comprehend why this has happened. Generally this pain is thrust into the unconscious and negative messages are formed about itself. In effect the child thinks, “I am not getting the love

I need here therefore I must not be lovable.” This is the beginning
of believing a lie about our self. We wrongly interpret painful experiences that happened to us as being about us.

 

In the way of Deep-Heart Healing it is crucial that negative messages made about ourself be made conscious and be transformed. As a wise loving adult we can now awaken to our basic inner unity with The Source of our life that is Love. This love being free of all distortion knows where we hold distortion in our life. Here is where intuitive knowledge is so important (see Accessing Inner Guidance). Meeting with another person who uses their gift of intuitive knowing can help facilitate our healing.

 

Usually there was a time frame when we experienced an emotional overload that we began to make this happening about us. As we asked to be shown the time frame and the person(s) interacted with the deepest aspect of healing can then begin. To realize healing of early wounds it is almost always necessary to speak to the memory of the hurt child in this early time frame. In a session, guided meditations are offered to facilitate this.

 

Guided meditations first ground a person in the presence of love. They are encouraged to open to the presence of Their Higher Power, enlightened beings, departed loved ones and loving friends.

 

Then they are guided to embrace the memory of the hurt child within who still feels alone, overwhelmed by pain, hopeless, helpless, victimized, etc. What happens in this is that the hurt part of our self feels the presence of Love and experiences healing of its pain that up to this time it could see no way to resolve. As healing is experienced it breaks the “acting out” of that hurt part in addictive behaviors, dysfunction patterns by which it still tries

to manage, control or escape pain in our present life.

 

As this is done, we allow ourselves to learn from the memory

of the inner child what is was like for him or her to be abandoned, neglected, abused or to experience whatever it was they experienced. This opens us to compassion for all who suffer in

a like manner. Perhaps we could say that almost all of us in some measure lose our sweetness, our beauty, and our innocence in childhood. Yet, there is a sense wherein it has never been lost.

It was lost because we wrongly interpreted a painful experience

as being about us. And this simply is not true. Eternal, undying love that cannot be injured, present to us is the truth of who we are.

 

In the presence of another person the hurt part of our self can experience a supportive presence that it never felt. This makes all the difference. This hurt part may need to be encouraged to tell a parent what they really needed from him or her or to express their hurt, sorrow or anger.  What is needed for healing has a way of coming forth when people meet trusting higher guidance.